Cool or rude?

I have been following the movement of several young people who have sincere intentions to change the world, to do something better, more sustainable and even to get rich quick - much faster than their parents, perhaps they have succeeded.

I cannot say that this belongs only to this generation. It has always been and always will be. I approach this point as a suggestion for personal improvement in the sense that, just as we can improve the world, we can also improve ourselves.

I love the "not caring" way of young people and I put myself in this group, sometimes. But, honestly, I think there is space to understand ourselves more and pay more attention to those around us, not only to generate a good application, which will benefit thousands of people, but to be pleasant with those around us.

The other day I was reading a story like that we received on whatsapp and there it said that we have no patience or respect for others. I thought about it a lot. Then, observing people around me and hearing reports from others, I realized how many people there are who think that swearing is normal, it is “good”! I also realized how much it bothers so many other people.

I consider myself a person who is discouraged with certain formalities, after all, I understand that there are several forms of communication, verbal and non-verbal. But I also understand that society judges certain behaviors - and I see that I hate to be judged as well as I hate to judge (I am really the appeasing type). But… .what do I want to get with all this?

Simple!

I believe that extremes serve as an exception and not as a rule. Harmony is in linearity, with clear space for peaks and valleys. For example: speaking three words and putting "véio" at the end is unnecessary to the ears, it tires; just like any other expletive. This diverts us from the focus, unconsciously, generates a certain discredit because it seems to lack social posture.
In a common conversation, sending the person if F… is not the easiest way to translate the thought: I don't agree with you!

I struggle a lot to pay more attention to our words, after all, they cause sentimental impacts all the time, whether positive or negative.

Mastering the use of our mother tongue as well as the good use of the intonation of the voice and the sincere attention in the eyes can make a difference for someone to think we are very cool or a lunatic idiot.

If you want to connect with people, in addition to those who use your terms, think about it. In order to have connectivity within this diversity that is the world, it is important to always maintain our personality, without ever forgetting that respect and kindness can fit anywhere.

When we hear a word badly said, a neglect, it hurts the recipient and, one day, that someone may be you. Therefore, I propose that we pay attention to this so that interpersonal relationships become increasingly better and more and more empathetic.

Disclaimer: The opinion presented in this article is the responsibility of its author and not of ABES - Brazilian Association of Software Companies.