In our day to day it is nothing different. We often miss the opportunity to save lives, jobs, families, animals. Paying sincere attention to someone all the time is quite a Herculean task, after all we need to take care of our own lives as well. But the question is: throughout your life, whether at home, at the club or at work, do you really pay attention to the words, the looks and the silence of those around you?
Today, I would like to have an extraterrestrial communication with my mother. Perhaps one day this will be possible. Who knows?! The truth is that today, silence has become eternal. I no longer hear your laughter or your advice. I don't see your smile anymore, except for the photos I insist on carrying with me and consulting at all times.
I hear people complaining that someone talks a lot or that they have to pay attention to so-and-so and cyclan and laugh about it, carrying a certain regret. Listening can be the key to accessing so much important information, which can change our own lives. But we stay focused on our world, on our problems and forget the magnitude of life that is characterized by so many things, smells, people, sensations, opportunities that exist beyond ourselves, beyond our own navels.
Currently, I see human relationships having several faces: those of digital people, who send their sincere condolences via Whatsapp and those who simply send a standard message of solidarity; those of individualists, who do not even pay attention to what is happening next to them; those of collaborators, for whom there is no time or place, are always there to help, and so many other guys out there.
I am nobody to judge the next one. I already do this rigidly about myself and I confess that I am tough on myself sometimes. What I realize, more and more, is the need for more dialogue so that we can make the world better.
I once heard a very interesting story that I tell you briefly. A couple lived together for more than 70 years. Already sick, on her deathbed, the lady took her husband's hand and said, in a shaky voice, but full of affection: “I dedicated my life to you and how good it was. During all these years, when we had breakfast in the morning, I always worried about leaving the bread crumb for you, because it was the part that you liked the most. I confess today that I was also the one I liked the most, but I preferred to give it to you for the simple pleasure of seeing you happy. ” The husband looked her in the eye and with a tear and a wide smile replied: “And I always smiled in thanks, but I never told you that the part I like most is the bread crust. I never told you, because I wanted you to eat what made you happy! ”.
With that, we learn the lesson that we do not perceive signs, even though we love very much. So, I insist that sincere conversation, with dedicated attention, even for seconds, can bring you important information that can make both parties happier, in a simple way.
Do not miss the opportunity to look around and say sincere words. Nor do you miss the opportunity to hear them. Be open to receive what the world can deliver and do your best, always, to end the day with the feeling of a mission accomplished for another 24 hours.
The opinion presented in this article is the responsibility of its author and not of ABES - Brazilian Association of Software Companies.
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